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10 Ways to Show Up for Friends



In the past few weeks I have received multiple texts from friends who are hurting and struggling. COVID has not been easy. I wanted to make my friends feel better and so I brainstormed a few ideas to brighten their day.

1. Handwritten Note – There is something special about receiving a handwritten note. The effort and intentionality that goes into it shines through.

2. Communicate with Their Preferred Way in Mind – Some people love talking on the phone, others texting, while others like facetime. Know what their preferred method is and talk to them in that format, even if it may not be your favorite. The priority is to make them feel most comfortable.

3. Just Be There – When someone is going through a difficult time, they may not need advice. Instead just show up and listen. Let them vent, talk, or cry.


4. Plan an Outing – Plan a special outing or even a girl’s trip. Check nearby cities’ COVID guidelines and follow them while you are there. Going out of town will be a way to get friends out of their “norm,” and shaking up a routine is sometimes exactly what is needed if they are feeling stuck.

5. Do Not Assume They Know – Tell them that you love them, miss them, cherish their friendship. Whatever it is, no matter how long you have been friends or how many times you have told them in the past, we all like to be reminded we are important.

6. Care Package – Send them a care package with some of their favorite treats. Chocolates, a bath bomb, and facemask would make for a relaxing evening and time to rejuvenate.


7. Send Flowers – If you live close by leave flowers at their door, or if they live in another city then find a local delivery service to leave their favorite variety.


8. Them First - A childhood psychologist once said, “If you are hugging a child never be the first one to let go, you do not know how much they need it.” However, this rings true for adults, too. Their love language may be physical touch and holding them could be the therapy they need. So, when you hug them, do not be the first to release.

9. Text Them – A simple and easy way to let someone know you are thinking about them is to send a text. It never ceases to brighten my day when someone dear to me texts to say they are thinking of me.

10. Ask – It may not always be possible to supply an answer or solution to someone’s problems. However, the simple act of asking them and letting them know you hear and see their hurts is a way for them to not feel so alone.

-Alina Gersib

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